Being overseas I have had the pleasure of not having any cell phone service. Only source of messaging is through Wi-Fi. Yea I know, how can I possibly live without my cell phone working wherever I go. Sounds a like true nightmare. However, having this problem made me realize something. My chin went from always being down to being up. Now instead of my eyes on my phone during times of silence or boredom they were up. My eyes have begun to observe more and more.
People nowadays have a strong tendency in times of silence at the table to look down at their phones to see what their cyber life is up too. Note, that I said cyber life and not social life. That is exactly what it is. Now people have a second person they must always take care of. Remember tamagotci? Well people born in the late 80s and early 90s sure will remember them. Simply, tamagotci’s were a cyber animal you had to feed and take care of. They were just a warm up for the cyberself people have to take care of now days!
So, I’m at the table with no cell service whatsoever. My eyes begin to observe during times of silence. Almost immediately people grab their phones and dive head first into their cyber world. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or Whatsapp. Who has messaged me or who has like my photo? Should I like this photo or send this person a message? I could see the thoughts traveling through their heads. There I realized how badly we are addicted to our cyberself. We have become so attached to the cyberself that its getting out of control.
I have a challenge for you. Next time you go out to a club, dinner or just hanging out somewhere put your cell phone up. Then when people stop talking, when your bored or you’re not engaged in a conversation keep your cell phone in your pocket! I promise you that you will be itching to pull that bad boy out and see what your cyberself is up too. It will bug you and annoy you. Sit there and experience that awkward silence at the table. Try to get yourself engaged in the conversation or try to start up a conversation. Then you will realize how much more difficult the REAL social life is compared the cyber social life. Once you get that conversation going with your friends it becomes so much more gratifying than liking someone’s picture or messaging someone “Wyd.”
When you are alone sitting in a public place. If you keep that phone in your pocket, keep your chin up and eyes forward, began to observe your surroundings. Notice how everyone is on their phones. Groups of friends sitting next to each other will be on their phones, loners, just like yourself, will be on their phones and families will be on their phones. Keep your phone in your pocket and observe the world around you. You might miss out on the REAL social life.
When you are at dinner everyone puts their phone in the middle of the table. Whoever looks at their phone first has to pay for everyone.
Leave your phone in your car. So when you reach down to grab your phone it won’t be there. And trust me you will reach down for your phone.
Turn it off
Let your friends know you’re trying to not use your phone so much. They will help you.
We all wish to live to 100. Well most of us do. So when a young man reaches 25 we look in the mirror and ask yourself what have you done in your first quarter of life.
1. Live by yourself
- He needs to eventually leave his Mom’s house and live away from home. When I say live by yourself, I mean he needs to live without a roommate. He needs to live completely by himself. Learn how to take care of himself. Learn to be alone and be ok with it. Its not as easy as many think, to live completely alone.
2. Work a job he hates
- A man needs to work. Eventually, he will come across a job he completely hates. He will hate getting up for it and going too. He needs to experience having to tough out a shitty job and rise above it. He will look back at the job one day and realize it was beneficial.
3. Leave the Country
- We live in a small world today. With just a touch of our phones we can see Tokyo. But for a man to truly understand cultural differences he must experience it first hand. Leave the country and see some other part of the world.
4. Been through a serious relationship
- Men go through flings, dating and serious relationships. When a man finds someone they truly care about they invest their heart into the relationship. By 25 a man needs to have experienced the excitement of falling in love. Also the work it takes to keep a relationship strong. He needs to understand relationships take serious work to be successful. He needs to experience the feeling of breaking up with someone and/or being dumped. It will only make him a better person in the long run. He needs to learn from the good and bad of each relationship.
5. Be creative
- Not everyone can paint, write or play music instrument. But a man needs to try something creative by 25. It will help him respect creative activities such as art, photography, music and writing.
6. Lose someone close to you
- A quarter into his life, a man will most likely lose someone close to him. He needs to go through the emotions of losing someone. It will help him understand how precious this life we have is.
7. Grow a beard
- By 25 most men will be able to grow their first beard. He needs to grow one. It’s required.
8. Play a sport
- By now a man surely knows he can play a sport or he just plain sucks at it.
9. Smoke and Drink
- I’m not saying smoke. I’m saying by 25 a man needs to have at least tried smoking something weather it be a cigar, pipe, cigarette or weed. Then of course by 25 a man needs to know what his favorite alcoholic drink is. He should have by now tried drinks such as whiskey, vodka, rum, scotch, wine, champagne and beer. He needs to be able to control his drinking responsibly.
10. Drive a Manual Clutch
- Driving a stick shift is a skill every man needs to acquire a quarter through his life. It is the way cars are meant to be driven. Plus it gives him a greater respect for cars and their technology.
11. Get a Tailored Suit
- If a man has never bought a tailored suit by 25, then he is not a man until he does.
- Not ramen noodles or spaghetti. A man by 25 needs to know how to cook things like fish, chicken, and steak dishes. By now he should be able to cook a healthy meal for not just a date but himself.
13. Achieved a goal
- Most men’s lives are goal driven. We strive to complete task. Weather it be score a big job, graduate college or something simpler like reach a new max on bench press. He needs to feel the pride of achieving something he has set out to do.
14. Go t0 multiple concerts
- Don’t go to just one concert. Go to as many as you can, big and small. Experience different music genres at different venues.
15. Go clubbin in the city
- Leave the college bar scene. Go to a high class club in the city. Get dressed up with your boys or girl. Then go let loose in classy club.
16. Go hunting and/or camping
- Every man needs to be in touch with nature.
17. Win and Lose
18. Received your undergrad
- By 25 a man should be either looking for a job or looking at continuing his education.
19. Know who your best friends are
- By 25 a man will have gone through so many friends he won’t be able to remember them all. However, there will be a select few that will have stood by his side all the way up to this point in his life. He needs to understand who those are and let them know how important they are.
20. Know who you are.
- This is by far the most challenging one. In a world where we are influenced by everything we see on our phones, computer and TV we have lost our sense of identity. The best way to test yourself is to sit down for 20 minutes and write about yourself. If a man by 25 knows who he is and what he wants in life, then he is one the right track.
If you’re over 25 and haven’t done some of these then get to it!
Drake & The Weeknd: WYLAT After Party at Adlib in Frankfurt, Germany.
He was giving a S/O to the Weeknd. Then the DJ dropped the Weeknd’s Drunkin Love Remix. That after party was dope.
What tonight feels like.
"We’ve been here before.."
"Fasching" aka Carnival in Mainz, Germany
Michael Jordan Tribute
The Greatest there ever was. The Greatest there ever will be.
Lisa Unger (via quotehimonthat)